End of article.
Just kidding! Everyone would agree that they would rather be around
positive people than negative ones. Personally nothing drags me
down quicker than being around someone who always has something bad
to say about others or their own circumstances. As people, we are
extremely sensitive to the vibes that other people give off. In
fact, they don’t even have to utter a word and we can deduce a lot
just from their body language and personal appearance. This happens
on a very deep, subconscious level for the most part and it affects
the way we treat people before we even meet them.
This makes it worth being a positive person, since it affects our
relationships in such a profound way. It’s been reported that as
much as 70% of a person’s success in life comes from their
relationships and the other 30% from their talents. People who are
fun and easy to be around (positive people) are more often
promoted, helped, supported and cared for. You must have noticed in
the average office environment, and on shows like Survivor, that
the first person given the boot is usually the one that’s
constantly complaining and generally being totally unappreciative.
Don’t be that person!
So the question remains, how does one go from being mostly negative
to mostly positive. Like most things in life it takes persistent
effort and the first phase of turning it into a habit is 80% of the
battle. Here’s what I did. I used a 30-day challenge of not
complaining. Basically you put an elastic band on your wrist and
every time you complain, you snap it to produce a bit of pain and
then switch it to your other wrist. What this does is it forces you
to become conscious of just how often you complain.
Let me tell you, it’s a lot!
Then, once you become more conscious of your negativity manifesting
as complaining, you also become more conscious of your thoughts as
well. After a few weeks of this, the time between thinking the
negative thought, catching yourself and ignoring it becomes quicker
and quicker to the point where the thoughts stop appearing in the
first place. About two weeks into the challenge I had a major
epiphany. I had become much more positive and everything in my life
very quickly started improving as a result. People were nicer,
strange coincidences started happening and a few lifelong dreams
were realized. This was a huge eye opener for me. So much so that I
totally forgot about the 30-day challenge because I felt like it
was already a success. So the truth is I never even made it to 30
days and it still changed my life dramatically. However, I must say
that I have slipped a little since then so I highly recommend that
you stick it out for the full 30 days so it becomes a permanent
I think I might do it again.
If you think you need a little more help than a simple rubber band
for developing positive habits in your life, you’ll probably want
to check out The Power Of Positive Habits.
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